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Three Beautiful Things Thursday

One. Playing has ramped up several notches in this household. Peek-a-boo and tickle monster remain popular staples but the repertoire’s expanded to hide and seek, toss the ball, and ofcourse pool. He’s a regular hustler at pool:

The playing corresponds with his ramped up curiosity of the world around him. No longer content with rifling through the cupboards [though he still hones this skill daily] he wants to do more. Like draw. On my kitchen walls. His increased desire to explore and play led me to worry about how best to meet his developmental needs so I got him legos and a “stick the shape in the right hole- box” [surely there’s a simpler name but the box had no clear title for said cube] He politely played with each for approximately five minutes, and then stuck the empty lego box on his head and tromped around the house playing soccer with”shape box”

Someone suggested daycare for the developmental benefits of constant interaction and while a part of me thinks there will be plenty of time for regimented play, the other part of me worries that home with me, he’s not getting enough. The other day, too incapacitated to be much of a playmate, I reached new levels of mom-guilt when he bounded up and presented me with a paper cup and an expression that seemed to say Because I have inadequate stimulation you’ve reduced me to wandering the house with a paper cup for companionship. I grabbed a pen, drew a face on it, turned my voice up a few octaves, and made it a puppet. He has so many toys but I’ve never seen him so completely filled with joy as he did when playing with our ‘puppets’ [he made me make one for him too] Silly yes, but nonsense? No. There’s benefit in creativity and stretching the imagination. Plus it was free. This time is fleeting and I know around the bend is a day when rudimentary puppets will not do. Why not focus on the simple pleasures and let the toys, for now, gather dust if they must?

Two. And incase I wasnt aware of how fast time flies, I checked my e-mail today to find an e-mail from a student I taught my first year of teaching. She asked me to review her personal statement for college. For college.Ā  I remember her walking into my classroom with a dress and a shy smile. I taught her antonyms and adverbs. College? I remember college. The most difficult part about teaching is knowing you have just that year, and then you must say goodbye. Each year, without fail, when I saw them lined up on the last day of school, ready to leave the nest, I wept. You love them so dearly, you fall into their worlds and their challenges, and then- you let them go. It never got easy. I’m so thankful to keep in touch with some of my students and doubly touched that even now after all these years, I can find a way to help them.

Three. I’m almost done line-editing my second manuscript where IĀ  double-check grammar, spelling, and tone. In revisions past I printed out all 250+ pages because staring into the bright light of the computer can get tiring for hours on end. This time? I e-mailed it to my kindle. Reading it on there in ‘book form’ was indescribable. I made my revisions then re-sent it to myself to double check, all without a single tree having to pay the price. Hope is a curious creature. I can’t see it, touch it or taste it. But I can feel it. As I read my manuscript on Kindle, I could feel it coursing through my veins. With Borders gone, and publishers biting their nails, I don’t know what the future holds, but I can tell you that this moment of sitting down with a cup of tea to read a book, my book? One of the most beautiful feelings ever.

The best part of writing these Thursday posts is the sifting. Sifting through all the beautiful things there are. Sometimes its easy to lose sight and it’s my responsibility not to.Ā  Hope you had a beautiful Thursday too.

18 thoughts on “Three Beautiful Things Thursday”

  1. Cngrats for your manuscript. I can hardly wait. šŸ™‚

    Toys are pretty much usless in our house as well. Shape sorter, lego, cars, whatnot, they just gather dust. Cat toys, on the other hand, are played with. And not only by the cats, know what I mean? šŸ™‚


  2. Thanks Kmina, fingers crossed And yeah, he did find a toy at a friend's house that belonged to their cat- and went to town with it. Great mysteries of boys?

    thanks for the reassurance E!


  3. That is the cutest story about the puppets! My kids at that age absolutely loved puppets too, handmade or store bought, such creativity opportunities! I have to say I'm not a huge fan of daycare (unless going to work)… why? He sounds perfectly content and happy! (and congrats on the book, WOW! šŸ™‚


  4. Yay for the book!! How awesome to see your book in Kindle form. I'm looking forward to snatching up your book as soon as it hits the shelves. šŸ™‚

    As far as W, stretch your teacher muscle. You can certainly teach him plenty at home using books and stuff you can find online. Some libraries have “units” that include books, puppets, etc that you can borrow. Some of the stuff is too complicated, but use what is age appropriate. Remember that children at that age are like little sponges, they soak up everything. They are constantly learning. I'm considering doing some sort of teaching through books and the such an hour a day with Rania, once she's a year. P.S. Puppets are AWESOME. šŸ˜›


  5. Thanks Julia for the reassurance- he is content and happy- I guess I just hope he's getting all he can from what I can provide.

    Jamila, that's a good idea! I don't think he'd have the attention span for an hour a day, but we do mini-lessons each day- mostly on body parts, songs, rhymes, just looking and learning- each second they're learning so much! Thanks for the tips- I hadn't considered the units at the library- I've seen them I think!


  6. Children do not gain from day care. it is just a job for them. They need to stimulated by their own creativity. you are luckt that you can stay home with him.
    Think about all the germs they get form other sick kids. these little ones are always sick with this and that.


  7. louise gains a lot from her daycare and not everyone can stay home. i was very picky when selecting where l would go and she absolutely LOVES going. many of them have educational activities as well, i wouldn't trade our daycare provider for anyone except me or my husband and we both work.


  8. p.s. louise has gotten a completely normal amount of colds, never had to go to the doctor for one and i'd rather have her immunity building now than after she starts school.


  9. Kate, definitely! That is why I began seriously considering daycare because there are benefits to it- you have to do what is best for your family, and as long as you take care of everything [i.e. ensure its the best place possible and keep tabs] there is no reason for it to be a bad thing for anyone. People can have very strongly feelings one way or another on this topic, but as with everthing parenting related, its up to the best judgment of the parent. You are a great mom, and a good example of this!


  10. am so glad you had a beautiful thursday, and you wrote about it beautifully šŸ™‚ wish you many more.

    love the pic of waleed on the pool table!


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