fatherhood, humor, parenting

The father-son song dilemma

Me: Why are you on youtube?
K: Trying to find a good father-son song.
Me: There’s Cat’s in the Cradle.
K: I said, a good father-son song.
Me: That’s a GREAT song!
K: I meant, a song I could sing to my son without worrying he may hate me at some point in the distant future.
Me: Oh. Any luck?
K: Nope.

So I asked DJ Googly and it seems that K is right:

Father-Daughter Songs

As long as one and one is two there could never be a father who loved his daughter more than I love you. [Father and Daughter]

I’ve got sunshine on a cloudy day. When it’s cold outside, I’ve got the month of May. I guess you’d say. What can make me feel this way? My girl. [My Girl]

In my daughter’s eyes darkness turns to light and the world is at peace I find reason to believe, in my daughter’s eyes. [In My Daughter’s Eyes]

I thank God for butterfly kisses after bedtime prayer sticking little white flowers all up in her hair. [Butterfly Kisses]

Father-Son Songs

I got no love from my daddy cause the coward wasn’t there. He passed away and I didn’t cry, cause my anger wouldn’t let me feel for a stranger They say I’m wrong and I’m heartless, but all along I was lookin for a father he was gone. [Dear Mama]

How can I try to explain, when I do he turns away again. From the moment I could talk I was ordered to listen. I know that I have to go away. [Father & Son]

Papa was a rolling stone. Wherever he lay his hat was his home. All he left us was alone. [Papa Was a Rolling Stone]

My son turned ten just the other day. He said “Thanks for the ball, Dad, come on lets play, can you teach me to throw?” I said, “Not today, I got a lot to do” [Cat’s in the Cradle]

It appears musicians love their little girls. And hate their fathers. An interesting conundrum since K loves singing to his son, and Waleed, if the brightness of his smile is any indication, thinks his father’s voice has no equal [granted, Waleed’s experience is limited]. So until we find a positive father-son song, or a singer who likes his dad pens a song, we’ll be adapting.

As long as one and one are two. . . .

Are we missing something? Heard any non-therapy inducing father-son songs lately?

24 thoughts on “The father-son song dilemma”

  1. Have you ever heard “Song for Dad” by Keith Urban? I love that song!

    From the chorus:
    The older I get
    The more I can see
    How much he loved my mother and my brother and me
    And he did the best that he could
    And I only hope when I have my own family
    That everyday I see
    A little more of my father in me


  2. How about Just the Two of Us by Will Smith? He wrote that for his son…parts of it would work anyway

    “You're living proof that dreams do come true
    I love you and I'm here for you

    Just the two of us, we can make it if we try
    Just the two of us, (Just the two of us)
    Just the two of us, building castles in the sky
    Just the two of us, you and I”


  3. Just change it from “My Girl” to “My Boy” & K's all set 🙂

    It makes me wonder about songs written by daughters about their mothers, & vice versa. Relationships with same gender parents are complex.


  4. Huh. I never thought about that. But then, I'm having a bit of a hard time finding good mama/son songs…

    And, that's one seriously beautiful photo of K & W. There is (lack of good songs notwithstanding) something so very wonderful about seeing a boy with his daddy.


  5. @rickshawdiaries I don't think I've ever hear a mother/daughter song :-S

    Johnny Cash's “A Boy Named Sue” is another trauma-inducing father/son song.

    In a weird way “Coward of the County” could be considered a heart-warming father/son song, if you don't think about the fact that the dad was kind of a loser, and dead.

    “Promise me son
    Not to do the things I've done,
    Walk away from trouble if you can
    It don't mean you're weak
    If you turn the other cheek
    Son I hope you'll understand
    You don't have to fight to be a man.”

    Oh and as much as I hate this song, Creed's “With Arms Wide Open” is a good father/son song.


  6. Oh!!! Danny's Song by Loggin's and Messina.. that's a GREAT song

    “People smile and tell me I'm a lucky one
    and we've just begun
    Think I'm gonna have a son
    He will be like she and me
    As free as a dove
    Conceived in love
    Sun is gonna shine above”

    (btw, I stumbled here from the Bloggess' site.)


  7. Banshee, and Aramelle! Awesome! Glad to know there are some songs! I forgot about “Just the two of us”

    Rickshaw, yes there are not many mother-son songs, there's Lauryn Hill's song to her son Zion which is lovely though- and then there's Tupac's “Dear mama” which tears me up, BUT not the sort of song you'd want your kid singing to you, lol.

    Susan, as I told Baraka above, yes there aren't a lot of mom- son songs- but yes seeing a boy cuddle with his dad: *melt*

    E, lucky viktor!

    Yankie! Thanks!!!! Great advice- I never heard of these songs, I appreciate the heads up- and isn't the bloggess awesome?


  8. @Yandie: Just thinking about this a little more: Tilie Olsen put together an amazing anthology of poetry from mother to daughter & daughter to mother which included the full range of complex emotions and which I really enjoyed in college.

    I also did a quick search on songs & came up with “She's somebody's hero” by Jamie O'Neal, “The greatest love of all” by Whitney Houston, “In my daughter's eyes” by Martina McBride, “I Hope You Dance” by Faith Hill, “The Wind Beneath My Wings” by Bette Midler, & “Letting Go” by Suzy Bogguss.


  9. This really doesn't add to the topic, but my dad makes up little songs for each of the grandkids. He starts singing them to them as soon as they're born, and I have to admit, when they're sad or hurt, they always feel better when PopPop sings them their special song. The song for the first grandson, Cayle, was “Little Fishie in the Sea,” then came his brother, Andon, who got “Little Birdie in the Sky.” However, today I was NOT impressed when I passed dad's office and heard him softly singing to Davie, “Silly Little Goose, As Stinky As a Moose.” Really? That's the song the granddaughter gets? Her diaper was really full, though…


  10. Oh! Your hubby is hot! You guys are the cutest couple, ever! No wonder Waleed is so adorable! The pic of them together is so sweet, I love it! Make more babies, quick! 😀


  11. Stacey- HOW ADORABLE!!!!! I LOVE that your dad makes a special song for each child- but had to laugh at loud at the one he's currently beta testing on your beautiful little bundle, LOL. And thanks for the sweet words about my hubby lol! Yes more babies coming right up! 😉

    ImpatientOptimist, Thanks for the link. I can't believe I thoguht there were none, and now I have enough to make a mixed tape! 🙂


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