motherhood, parenting

I’m Talking To The Man In the Mirror

My son is an extrovert. His face lights up at large crowds. He grins at aunts and uncles and babbles with our friends. Today he jumped into the arms of a waitress, giggling as she walked him around to meet busboys and waitstaff. More than anything he loves other kids but most of our friends don’t have children in his age-group. There are ofcourse people with kids in his age range but I hedge as I wonder if I should make the exhausting venture towards forging friendships for the sake of our son with people we otherwise would not have much in common with. People seem surprised when I say Im an introvert. I guess Im not the literal definition of the word since I do enjoy the company of people but I I prefer a small close-knit group than a large gaggle of friends with whom I have dinner parties but lack depth. But as the mother of an extrovert its important I meet his needs. A conundrum that K and I have yet to find a solution to.

In the meantime he was enthralled with the friend he met while crawling around the house today:

There is a Pakistani saying that you shouldnt show a child their reflection in the mirror because they will presume the reflection a friend and miss them when they leave. Watching him babble to his reflection in a language I’d give anything to understand I realized 1) This is so cute 2) and he needs friends. At least for now while I try to find him some the little boy in the mirror will do.

15 thoughts on “I’m Talking To The Man In the Mirror”

  1. mA, mA – what a cutie – love his expressions! Is there a local Moms group or something you can look into joining? It's great watching your children interact with other children and I'm sure he'll love it.



  2. Aww *giggle* he is so cute. Viktor is opposite. He really doesn't like people or large crowds. It takes him a while to warm up to people, and if he is tired or cranky, he will cry if someone other than me, my husband or son tries to pick him up. Well I know he cries when large groups sing happy birthday. I guess that means he will cry at his own too.


  3. Thanks Ash πŸ™‚ Yeah there are local Moms groups. . . and well, that's a long story I could share off-line. They are very very nice ladies though.

    E- thanks πŸ™‚ Yeah each kid is different- a friend of mine said that her child is introverted also and how its tough because this is a very “extrovert” society. Its okay for a child to be shy or quieter and okay for a kid to be more outgoing- I wish people wouldn't put judgments based on that as I know you experienced.


  4. Adorable! Love the second photo with the giggles πŸ™‚

    My children all have varying levels of sociability, which has been tricky so far. Like you, I'd class myself as an introvert, so I forced myself to be more outgoing for the sake of the boys when they were smaller. And I made a grand total of … one friend with a child the same age as my middle son.

    That was enough though, and she is still one of my best friends. Now all of my sons are in full-time school and doing well socially with their peers [even my autistic little one is doing well].

    What I get from your post, and my personal experience, is that even the little social butterflies will learn the value of *true* friendships from their introverted mummies πŸ™‚


  5. Thanks Anon, Ayesha, Susan, Stacey πŸ™‚

    Kate, thank you for your advice, I'm glad that ou can relate to this. You give me hope. I love your insight at the end- perhaps they will, maybe that's why I was given such a social butterfly, and why he was given an introverted mother- we have a lot to teach each other :).


  6. Fantastic pictures! ;-)) W is truly a gorgeous baby.

    George sometimes smiles to the baby in the mirror, but most of the times he shies away, no matter how I turn to make him look in the mirror, he just won't, does not get upset, but just turns his head in the opposite direction.

    I too worry that he will not have enough social interaction with kids of his age, and this is why we applied to get him into a kindergarten next autumn (seriously, Germans are cah-raaazy with their 'ahead planning'!). Not because I would mind keeping him home, but because he needs to interact with children of his age. Not to mention that he needs to learn German as well, and it is better to have close contact from early on. He will learn English and our native language at home, but German he needs to pick it up himself, poor baby…


  7. Adorable! I'm glad I started my day reading this. I have a big smile right now. He is so cute!!! (And I love how you tied in the Pakistani belief. Really interesting!)

    As an introverted mother to an extrovert child (my first son is a classic case, but my second son can swing either way), I wish you luck.


  8. Tauqeer, thanks for your comment and welcome to the blog πŸ™‚ Yes- it appears to be so, lol.

    Kmina, what a lucky boy he is to get to leran so many languages- this is the prime age! How funny that he's not that fascinated by mirrors yet- but he is younger than W so time will tell if he befriends your mirror too, lol πŸ™‚

    Tracy, thanks- luck I will need!!! πŸ™‚


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