Wayfarer discussed the icky sticky topic of regifting. (She mentioned it as a desi thing. Buy we’re not the only regifters? I saw it on Seinfeld) There’s nothing wrong with regifting but a bad one can make you wonder what that person thinks of you. (granted this could also occur with a non-regift) Isn’t the whole POINT of giving a gift on a special occasion to say: We care about you? So when you get bad gifts you wonder, are they trying to tell me something? Some tips:
1. If you regift, no one should be able to tell. Yes ladies and gents, just like a nose job is bad if its obvious you got one, a regift is not good if its obviously so.
2. Do the once over. This means check for dents, signs of wear and tear, and old tape. The worst: Cards inserted in the box you did not check. One of my friends got a wedding gift with the original card inside. D’oh!
3. If you giggled and/or gagged when you got the gift: Don’t regift it. Well, you ask, am I to throw it away? A perfectly intact one eyed camel sculpture?? (Seriously, I’ve actually received one) How about donating to charity. One man’s junk-another’s treasure… just don’t impose your junk on your friends.
4. Is it something the recipient would even want? Think about the person. Would they like this? Pink bunny to a baby boy. A funky monkey plate set? Can you see them using it? If the answer is no- don’t give it.
5. If you regift will the original gifter find out? People, if you get the gift from a friend and then pass it on to a mutual friend and its something like a purple vase with yellow dandelions stenciled… and the original gift giver sees it in someone else’s house. Not good folks. Not good at all.
6. If you used it, don’t regift it. I don’t care how well you think you cleaned it. Or you only used it just once to test it out. Once you’ve used it, don’t give it as a gift. Caveat: if its a close friend, and what you are giving away is something kinda high end like a roaster or a cappachino maker and you know your friend would LOVE it. Gift it but let em know.
7. If its not regift but you got it off the extra super duper clearance rack, proceed with caution for there might be a reason it was there. On my wedding we got a portable grill from the one who gave us the idea of “no boxed gifts” on the invite. Whats wrong with a portable grill? Nothing if its not retaped, broken, and used! Granted, they may have bought it new. But if its hanging by a thread in the super duper clearance rack… think about it: Will it look used? Maybe it was used.
8. If you did perchance buy it new from a widely advertised super duper clearance in the area, proceed with extreme caution. Chances are others may figure out your cheap-osity. Case in point: BBQ utensils from friends who made a whole big deal about their gift. But we knew: Home Depot penny bin. That very day, everyone and their mother bought one because it was, a penny. Still can’t quite figure out what they were trying to say: We don’t give a hookie dookie about you? or Nothing personal, we’re just cheap?
In sum, if you’re going to regift, do it well. If you don’t want to spend the money on a decent gift: Don’t give a gift. If you feel like never-the-less you should give a gift, how about a cheap but charming option such as a card or flowers or fresh baked cookies? And if even that is too much.. a smile is enough. Really. A bad gift can make the receipient feel that you meant to give them a message akin to a slap or scoff when you probably only meant to save a few bucks.